Life may not be working out in the way you want. If you need someone with whom to share your thoughts, feelings and experience, or someone who will understand your pain and hurt and can help you find solutions that fit your unique approach to life, seeing a counsellor/ psychotherapist can be a good option.
I am emotionally disturbed; do I need to seek for counselling or psychotherapy?
When experiencing difficulties, it is normal to have swings in our emotions. Our emotions are very dynamic that it is able to recover after low tide. However, if the low mood sustains over three weeks and affects your daily living, such as eating, sleeping, working or living will, behind there may be some conflicts or psychological knots untreated. Then one should look for a professional counsellor or psychotherapist for early interventions.
Does it mean I admit having a problem if I seek for counselling? How would the counsellor think about me?
It is normal that everyone might experience difficulties in life and seeking help is courageous. The counsellor will highly appreciate this! Crisis is often a golden opportunity for growth – having the chance to transform oneself! As shown by numerous clinical cases, people who have experienced trauma can restore their mental health and live a beautiful life. The key is to seek help as soon as possible! The sooner one seeks help, the faster one can recover.
How is the process of treatment?
Treatment will be conducted in face-to-face interviews. In an initial meeting, which normally takes two hours, Fanny works to clarify the conditions and goals of the clients. She will also teach clients self-regulatory tools as means to enable clients to stabilize themselves at home. Depending on the unique needs of individual client, she will adjust her interventions accordingly. The process will be gentle to ensure clients feel safe as well as being able to achieve positive outcomes.
How long will treatment usually last?
This all depends on the needs of the client. Sometimes one is able to rebuild the resilience of the nervous system just after one session. For a single incident, an average of not more than six sessions will be required for healing. Yet, to deal with long-term or more serious problem, one needs longer time.
How long will each session last? How frequent should we meet?
The first interview is usually longer, about 2 hours in order to understand the situation and provide some remedies. Subsequent session normally lasts for an hour. Initially, weekly meeting will be recommended to achieve better results
What can Counselling / Psychotherapy help?
● Emotional distress
● Personal growth and development
● Pre and postnatal challenges
● Depression, anxiety, insomnia
● Relationship problem
● Psychosomatic symptoms
● Childhood trauma
● Physical or emotional abuse
● Post-traumatic Stress Disorder
● Loss, grief and bereavement
● Psychological aftermath post-accident (including falls, car accident)
● Witnessing accident / violence
● Preparation for surgery/ medical procedures to enhance recovery
What will be the expected benefits?
● Better self-regulation for effective stress management
● Identification of own resources and ability to achieve growth and self-healing
● Rejuvenation of body, mind and spirit
● Expanded capacity to contain emotions
● Discovery of new direction and possibilities to overcome difficulties
● Rebuild of self confidence
● Awareness of more joy and contentment in daily lives
What is Somatic Experiencing?
Somatic Experiencing (SE) is a body-oriented approach to the healing of trauma and other stress disorders. When people encounter dangerous or very stressful situation, survival energy will naturally be activated. When the danger has passed and the residual energy fails to dissipate, it may leave memories in the body, which will interfere with the operation of the nervous system. This will result with symptoms, affecting all aspects of health. SE provides clinical tools to resolve these fixated physiological states.
How is the process of treatment?
The client will be directed to pay attention to his/her body sensations, to help him/her consciously aware of his own internal and external resources. The purpose is to provide him/her a safe experience. Then, the client will be guided by the therapist to touch bit by bit on tolerable painful experience, and to alternate between pleasant and unpleasant sensory feelings, emotions or images. During this process, excess energy stuck in the nervous system can be released, and a healthier state can be restored.
What is Focusing?
Focusing is a way of befriending with one’s self. By having open, non-judging and compassionate attention to our felt sense, which is defined as the totality of a person’s experience generated in interaction with all aspects of one’s environment, we are more able to get the message stem from wisdom of the body. We may have a ‘aha’ experience, better understand ourselves, know our concrete and priority needs, make the right choice and be able to move forward in life in the direction we desire.
What is Ego State Therapy?
EST is a client-focused approach which allows the inner family system to unfold with respect for the client’s uniqueness. Emphasis is placed on teaching the client as well as individual ego states important skills such as how to access safety and stabilization, and how to develop empathy and cooperation in order to resolve inner conflicts related to symptoms.
What is Integral Somatic Psychology?
Integral Somatic Psychology (ISP) is an approach to improve therapeutic outcomes through greater embodiment of all aspects of experience and all levels of the psyche. With ISP, client will learn how to work more effectively with different psychological experiences such as emotions, cognitions, and behaviors in the physical body, informed by extensive knowledge on the role of the physical body in generating and defending against different psychological experiences from over a century of scientific research in universities and clinical research in body psychotherapy traditions.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy aims to help you change the way you think (cognitive) and what you do (behaviour). Rather than looking at past causes, it focuses on current problems and practical solutions to help you feel better now. The way we think about situations affects the way we feel and behave. If we view a situation negatively, we may experience negative emotions and feelings which lead us to behave in an unhelpful way. Your therapist will help you identify and challenge any negative thinking so you can deal with situations better and behave in a more positive way. CBT can be helpful for depression, anxiety, stress, phobias, obsessions, eating disorders and managing long term conditions.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Acceptance and commitment therapy is an action-oriented approach to psychotherapy that stems from traditional behavior therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy. Clients learn to stop avoiding, denying, and struggling with their inner emotions and, instead, accept that these deeper feelings are appropriate responses to certain situations that should not prevent them from moving forward in their lives. With this understanding, clients begin to accept their issues and hardships and commit to making necessary changes in their behavior, regardless of what is going on in their lives, and how they feel about it.
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT)
Emotionally focused therapy is an approach for working with couples, families, and individuals that helps to create and reinforce secure, resilient relationships. Therapists will help you understand your own and others’ emotions, address any insecurities and conflicts, and learn to interact in a more responsive and emotionally connected way.
New Parents Counselling
Being a new parent can be quite demanding. Yet, there are no comprehensive course to prepare you for this new role. It is common that new parents will encounter difficulties such as: difficulty bonding with your baby, overwhelmed by taking care of the baby, frustrations caused by uncertainties etc. As having so much more to take care of, you may also experience a drop in your relationship satisfaction with your spouse or and have difficulty communicating your needs with each other.
New parents counselling can help you find the right balance of being a parent in your unique way, which is beneficial both to you and your baby. This not only improve your well-being but also set the imprints that will affect your baby’s whole life.
You may choose to either come alone or with your spouse, pre-natal or post-natal. Together, Fanny helps you to learn ways to nurture yourself, make your own needs met, stay connected to your partner and other sources of support, so that you can meet the needs of your baby, as you enter into the new chapter of your life.